It J. seems silly to worry when there is J. nothing to worry about. xx. Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. I never liked this part of a relationship. 05-17-2012, 01:53 PM steve1282 : Location: Dallas. agreywood 7 yr. ago Am I nuts? As many said, you have to take your spouses comfort level into consideration. My bf WAS texting me from the bar, but that has tapered off. S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. the next morning he said he was wasted with a bunch of his friendsand hes not the type to cheat on a girl, but who know what can happen when their drunk you know? We LIKE being home together. No. call M. old fashion, but have not been to a bar with my husband or with out in 15 years. If it's a trend, however, you might need to do some reflecting. If my husband is going on a site visit alone with herhe usually tells M.J. in case I get a call he is out and about with a young blonde female that is not M.lol. Now I am talking about a friend that I talk on the phone to and interact regularly with. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. But that's J. M.! Mostly for work, like happy hours. Are you his parole officer or his girlfriend? Sex is often a part of healthy, committed relationships, so if you two aren't getting intimate anymore, that might be an indication that something's not right. So I'm thinking all of you ladies would think I was bad. Your boyfriend is an adult who shouldn't have to notify you of all of his comings and goings. 568 views, 38 likes, 3 loves, 3 comments, 74 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from El poeta boaner: El poeta boaner was live. Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. So try not to take it personally and give him the space he needs. Yes, if you've provided all the details. He just wants you to look the other way. I really don't understand your answer, since when the hell does having fun mean not being into her? But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. . We've agreed to be monogamous not by default but because it feels right for us. Ya know, and I think this is important, if someone I hung out with gave Troy a bad vibe I would not question his vibe, I would stop hanging out with that person. (ok i'm being nice, i think it sends that message loud and clear, because men are horny pigs :) -said with love lol.) ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. The problem with being alone is, that usually means you'll have to find people to talk to and thats sorta the fishy part for the spouses I think. Wind him up make him jealous. "Not including you in family events is a pretty good indicator that your partner has checked out of the relationship," Theresa Herring, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Romper in an email exchange. (We are both 29 btw) When I expressed my feelings of disagreement, he told me I'm being insane. But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. However, I also don't see a problem with going to lunch with a coworker from the opposite sex as long as it was completely platonic. To M. that is not a friendship. Whether they're truly checked out and just can't be bothered to end things or there's something else going on, you're likely going to have to talk about it together in order to move forward. I trust him, too. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. But don't be anxious, you are good enough and I'm sure he loves you like you love him. My hubs knows M. well enough not to be threatened. I truly don't need the attention to feel good. So..he and I need to discuss all this, and if he's not willing to change, I may have to walk. It makes me panic. Dont laugh but normally I go out with my girls to the karaoke bar or this diner/ bar thing where we live, my spouse to Hooters (ew) or the sports bar and we dont have issues because its planned in advance and we know who the other person is hanging with. jwrunner81 This is emotionally manipulative behavior. Go with your gut on this one. You know when you are dating someone who cares and you know when you are dating a player. My Long Distance Girlfriend won't video call with me. He did not acquiesce, as I was sitting next to him. However it's phrased it shows a lack of security or trust. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. Just tonight I decided if we are going to have a future together, I need to give him his time to himself and not bombard him with texts. The bar is really not my husbands thing, but I go out with my friends without him and he is cool with it. "I guess it depends from one man to another. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. You still have freedom. Did you know that at least 4000 to 5000 of my posts were done before the thumbs up even came in. We are individuals sharing the same goals in relationship. Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. Help should I stay with him or not and it has been four long years that we have been together. i doubt we are even close to being in the same places in our lives. I don't control my husband. The funny thing was it was that attitude of his that I think made him sleep around. (You won't be happy if your wife is gone every night.) I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? It isn't driven by insecurity. I do what I CHOOSE to do. As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on, psychotherapist Kimberly Hershenson tells Romper in an email exchange. explicit permission. They might give M. a hug, but that's where it ends. 1. :) Turd. That being said we aren't glued at the hip and I am not his mother, so if he wants to hang out with his buddies or I want to go out with my friends for a girls night, neither of us has a problem with it. A few slurred hey baby I'm OKs are not too much to ask. Maintaining organization for your electronics is very enjoyable. Started Saturday at 12:43 AM, By She was always open about it, never tried to hide it, and if I asked if she had a good time she would tell me about it. he possibly has a minor drinking problem @jamie He countered me and said he'd be fine if I "go to the movies with Matt" (one of my good guy friends). Um, no. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. Because it shows you trust him. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. Don't make the same mistake I did. I do trust him and you have to assure that. "When people start to contemplate breaking up, they tend to associate more with single people because they assume this is likely to become their lifestyle," Herring says. Tinder, the popular dating app, is no longer just for hookups. If your boyfriend is going out without you, it doesn't necessarily mean he's trying to end things. That's awesome. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. So..your unease, even if you DIDN'T have a bad experience from before, is understandable. But its called trust. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! He needs to tell you everything that He does ? "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. J. my opinion but it isn't for us. How do I know, bad breakup. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. I guess I J. don't see how going to a bar solo and getting into situations where there's lots of alcohol, music and men are hitting on you/questioning your relationship can be very good at all for your current relationship. If you agreed on something whether it be notifying the other about what youre doing or where you are going, if you decide you dont feel like that is the right thing for you two anymore then a conversation should take place. This could be a sign of cheating because he is projecting onto you. HE needed the excitement is what he told M.. Of course, you dont need to know where the other person is or what he/she is doing ALL OF THEE TIME, but just letting me know once in a while is harmless. You are still an individual. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. Later that day when I went to see him again he had a bite on his neck and it looked like a love mark. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! It can feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment and rejection, leaving you wondering if you'll ever find a meaningful connection. I feel for you. Ok, he went out without your permission, I mean, without notifying you. We don't even spend that time out drinking. Men or women. This is what gets you in trouble. If you're insecure, you'll get upset if he talks to his family 50% of the time instead of spending 100% of it holding your hand. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. I don't understand why everyone flipped out about single people going out together. I don't want to ask for his attention. And adding alcohol to the mix definately doesn't help. Naturally, the latter should raise more eyebrows. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. Of course it's important to have time away from your partner and a life of your own. were going to be living together before too long, so I am just letting him enjoy his time right now and trying to relax about it as difficult as it is not to worry. help!!! Did I go to local bars and hang out and have all the fun you mentioned above when I was single? Just stop expecting him to be your boyfriend. I don't mind him enjoying his time alone he needs time to be a man, be with his guys, working on his cars,fishing etc. pastoralcucumbers I occasionally go to after work happy hour with a big group of co-workers. Course I'm the wife who has encouraged her husband to go to the strip club with his friends for bachelor parties he knows he can get his appetite anywhere as long as he eats at home :) and I definitely reap the benefits of those rare sojourns into gyrating nekid females :). I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. I think a lot of the nervousness comes from being worried about looking like a loner or a weirdo, but when you . That I trust him to hang out means he can trust that if I say she give M. a bad vibe it isn't because she is pretty, or anything, it is J. something is off. But it got old. If they're traveling for a friend or family member's bachelor or bachelorette party, for instance, you might not be invited, so leaving you behind doesn't mean that they're pulling away. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. There was a promo for $5 off your next dinner if you purchased a $25 gift certificate. I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. I did have one guy ask M. to dinner after the annoying compliments you hear at such establishments and I replied that I had a boyfriend and he kept talking but kept asking how I was allowed to go out without my boyfriend. But if your out. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. So back to your question. I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? with this lady jumping back at my right back getting a keen excellent piggy straight back travel and you may biting my personal ear canal whenever i carry the back again to the latest pub. New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. I know what it's like to love someone but know they aren't good for you. You still are a person, apart from your spouse. That's called a rule change. You have to put trust into each other. Anyways, that is the past, but you know how the past has a way of coming back and biting you in the behind! what do I do? If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. I'm in the same situation. You sill have a life and are not a Siamese twin with your spouse. yes i need a kick in the butt tonight! Im sorry for saying all this, its not that i dont trust you its just i'd prefer you to be honest with me and tell me the truth rather than putting up with everything, it would make it easier for the both of us and our relationship! Anyway what are your thoughts on the above situation? BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. What works in one marriage or relationship doesn't have to be the "answer" for another. She puts relationship on hold. SO to your question. Enjoy those evenings when he is out and look forward to the next time you see him. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. Did he actually love me? Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. If it isn't, then do what you want. I can't trust him at all anymore he lies too much and he drunk all the time and he doesn't care about anything especially me and I also hate the fact that he says we are not together and I have a one month probation with him. LOTS of women purposely go after married men. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. I read a story and call it. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. He didn't let me know anything. He asked for nothing in return. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. Sure, you're at home Jonesn' about it, but that's ok you'll make it through, and he'll appreciate it. blissfulblue AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally Does that make sense? I arrived alone and I left alone. I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. I'm generally surprised by how many people are against interactions with the gender you're attracted to. He would not even go somewhere like that without M. J. cause that's who he is. Well, people who babysit seem to be scarce where we live so yes we go out to bars with friends and not each other. Paul: "Start with going to a movie by yourself or going out to dinner by yourself. Don't Say Bad Things. Boyfriends are different than husbands. I am in a relationship with this guy for the past 3.5 months. Like, the power play becomes important when it comes to understanding the experience. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. evenworse Go out one night and iignore his calls till the next day and then just say oh sorry baby I was wicked drunk. Usually guys will start going to the bar alone if they are starting to build up the guts to cheat. I talked to him about it and tried compromising but it just didnt work. If I had asked questions, and made a couple comments, I am sure I could have had a hundred thousand posts by now too. To avoid another broken heart caused by dating insecure men, here are 15 signs of insecurity to watch out for. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. justagirl09January 22, 2012 in Trust and Relationships. He doesnt have time for meim so depressed and sad. I have issues with my bf going to the bar because my ex is an alcoholic. but things he says or does make you feel bad about yourself - and you can't really figure out why. But when it seems like there's a sharp increase in time apart, that's not a good sign for your relationship.". No, I know it is. But the. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on,. Luckily, we have every other weekend to ourselves when our kids are at our ex's house. he just seemed super down about how his life is going, is this why i might be feeling so neglected by him? i want him >, just relax ! My friends and I have often discussed how we don't "get it" that supposedly most women like women. Doesn't bother M.. Now, if he were encouraging sexual relationships with other people I WOULD be bothered. My boyfriend and I met in Australia a few months ago after traveling Thailand together we both went our seperate ways, whilst remaining in a relationship. I've never been into the bar scenebut my fiancee doesn't get upset if I want some "M." time. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare I guess I have.. It's okay to relax. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? I was always like, I can't help it, we're in a bar and apparently I'm a hot commodity, ha! To M., that is playing with fire. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. We purchased the gift cert from the bar so we were seated in that section. Like I said before, lots of "casual meetings over drinks" have turned into affairs. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. We didn't speak since 6. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. My boyfriend wants to go clubbing alone My boyfriend of one year who is long distance at the moment thinks it would be totally fine for him to go to a club by himself. He didn't, not because he couldn't be trusted around other women, but because he was/is an alcoholic. Now, pull out the choke - but only three-quarters of the way - hit that button again. "It likely means that they don't want you in family photos and/or on their family's mind. If im with someone i trust fine, go have fun. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. At some point it stop all of us out of here undertaking 2am. .. I'm literally going through the exact situation. However if he was taking his single female intern out J. the two of them for drinksI would have a problem with thatif they go to lunch I really don't mind because it is usually because they are far away from the office on a site visit and go get something to eat. I feel like that is dangerous behavior. 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